Hi lady's. I am 24 years of age and had a stillborn on the 8th of march 02.Everything was fine with my little boy at 37weeks and the next week when i went back for my usual cheak up the told me the bad news that my little angels heart had stopped beating. I was induced the next day and gave birth to my beautiful son. I will NEVER understand why this had to happen as it turned my life upside down and my heart and life will never be complete again till we meet again in many yrs to come.They say that one of the blood test came back as me having a thickening of the blood during pregnancy and can clott the umbilical cord and np oxcygen gets through to the baby, so they figured that is what happened to my little boy. it made me angry and still does that i wasnt tested for it when they found out i was pregnant because that is something that could of been stopped as they put u on asprin to thin out the blood.it breaks my heart everyday waking up with my son close by me and not being able to give him all the love i can.it has been 10mths since my fiancee and my loss and im now 10weeks pregnant and just praying to the lord above that we dont have to go through lossing another.I would really apprecaite your reply's and just some1 to talk 2..lissi....
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Posts: 0 (02/05/03 16:16:18) |
Hello,
I understand what you are going through. My baby girl was born at 23 weeks gestation, due to premature labor. I just suddenly went into labor for no reason. She was my first, and I will never understand why she didn't have a chance in this world. I had 37 minutes with her, to hold her and let her know how much she was loved. Her grandparents, and father were in the room and got to hold her while she was still alive. I'm now 14 weeks pregnant. It helps so much to have someone to talk to. Sometimes, the grief and anger is overwhelming. I get so mad at times because I did all I could to give her a good start in life. I ate right, no smoking, drinking, or even OTC drugs. I realize what I did and see these women who do all kinds of things and their child lives, then they go on to be horrible mothers, but their children live. I also want to know why she can't be here with me anymore. Why I only had such a short time with her. Why she didn't even have a chance. The only consolation I have is that I will be with her again someday. I know she is not in anymore pain, nor ever will be again. |
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Posts: 0 (02/08/03 18:41:31) |
hi spaanki its lissi, thanks 4 ur reply it ment alot to me. I'm truly sorry for your loss also of your baby girl at 23weeks and i know we will never understand why this has to happen to mothers like us who have or nor did anything wrong in there pregnancy, and yes it does make me also very mad when i see ladys that are pregnant and they are junkies or u see them doing wrong things and they go on to have there babies born alive and well, it doesnt make sense and it never will.. im glad to hear that you are now 14weeks pregnant, congratulations honey, u deserve all the best and i hope this time round everything goes very smoothly 4 you and you are soon to hold your baby in ur arms alive and well. i am now also going on 15weeks and everthing is going real well so far and i hope that it continues 4 me.. please write back to me and let me know how things r going for you. lissi
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Posts: 6 (04/01/03 22:26:09) |
I am so sorry to read about your little boy. I lost a baby girl at 23wks, 4days on Feb 7/03. We're still struggling with our loss and trying to understand what happened. You wrote that they tested you for thickening of the blood. Was this the Lupus Anticoagulant (LAC) test? I was tested for this and it came back positive. They will have to test me again next week. My OB mentioned that I will probably be on baby aspirin and Heparin if I get pregnant again. Have they mentioned Heparin to you?
Again, I am so sorry for your loss and good luck with your new pregnancy. Colleen *Colleen* (medium/tanned MAC NC35; combo skin; dark brown eyes; and dark brown hair :)
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Posts: 2 (04/02/03 23:40:40) |
hi colleen, yes that was the test that i hade done and i am taking 150grams of asprin a day now.. i am now 22weeks preg, and found out that we are having a girl this time round, we are so very excitied and happy about it, but still a bit anxious which is only normal 4 me to be feeling. im very sorry that u lost such a beautiful thing also and i pray 4 u the nexy 1 goes all well. i feel pretty confident that things will ok this time round, but just let it be known that asprin wont harm ur baby at all..i myself am not on heprin through doctors choice butim sure if u r put on it , it will only be for ur and bubs benefit..please let me no how i go in future ..all the best..lissi..
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Posts: 6 (04/03/03 11:29:40) |
Lissi,
I am so happy for you that everything is going well for this pregnancy. I'm sure that you are very anxious and that seems completely normal. I've done a lot of research on the LAC test and antiphospholid syndrome. We are going to see the high risk OB doctors later this month and hope that everything goes well for the future. Good luck on your beautiful baby girl and I will post if we get lucky enough to conceive again. Colleen |
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Posts: 1 (04/06/03 16:18:25) |
Hi ladies, I've been reading your submissions and have also suffered a recent loss. My daughter died in utero at 35 weeks on Feb. 26, 2003. The doctors have given us some ideas of the cause of death: there was a blood clot on the placenta, a placental abruption and antiphospholipid antibody syndrome. A week after delivery I was put on Lovenox, a heprin to reduce my chances of forming another blood clot. I'm still on Lovenox, and except for the injections in the abdomen and the bruising, it's not too bad. If I were to get pregnant again they said I would have to begin the injections again immediately.
My heart goes out to all you. No one in the world can understand our pain until they have experienced it for themselves. My daughter, Reies, was our first born, and it's hard to go on without her. |
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Has anybody heard of MTHFR dna test??? I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks and was told I had an abnormal result of this test which dr. said was not related to miscarriage. Going to have further testing to see if I need heprin or baby asprin.
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Posts: 9 (07/18/05 06:20:16) |
Hie ladies this will be a little longer but please take time to read it.
I went through a very difficult loss which is somehow different to yours. I had a beautiful healthy baby girl, born 4kgs on December 2003 and using ceasarian as i could not dilate. Until after 7 months end July 2004, (you can imagine how fast she grew up), developed an obstruction in the stomach. Doctors couldn't figure out what it was until the very last time when we were told that she needed to be operated upon. That was too late, too late to save the life of an innocent champion child. My only child. Itried all the motherly love and care and effort including driving at night to spare her from dying but i guess we were not lucky. She was not operated upon as time ran out so fast and she passed away in my very arms trying to console her that all will be fine with her and she would get out of the hospital bed soon. I could not believe my eyes when she breathed her last but it was so pathetic. She died in the ealy hours around 3 am. My only baby. It has really affected me emotionally.I now can manage to talk about her death without shedding tears but really i talk about her daily and i always have her snapshot with me anywhere i go. Now we are trying to conceive again. Maybe lady luck will be on our side and have a child again. Its my prayer atleast to have a baby and i would tell her/him many stories about Twambi my champion baby. Thanks and lets keep praying. Cecilia |
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Posts: 430 (07/18/05 09:42:08) |
My heart and prayers are with you- your child's life may have been short, but there was a purpose for her to serve hear on earth and her journey has only just begun. Your next child will come to you when you are ready and will have stories of your Twambi to tell of his/her own. Good luck, and God Bless you. WHere are you located?
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Posts: 9 (07/19/05 06:23:47) |
Hie Kryiesmomma
Thank you so much for your consoling words. It is really difficult to understand the agony i am going through especially when i remember her the last time she was laughing with me as we were playing for the last time in her life, my heart sinks and pounds hard. You are absolutely right that she had a purpose for her short life here on earth. I agree and i am now accepting that it happened. And now i am trying for another baby i can hold and call mine. Please e-mail me on cchisale@hotmail.com for my personal address as requested. I will feel more private and secure. Thank you Cecillia |
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Posts: 430 (07/19/05 20:45:50) |
I will email you, but I was just curious about what country you are in- the US, Canada, England, etc...we have a lot of women on the boards from many different countries. I would love to see a picture of your baby girl.
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Posts: 9 (07/25/05 02:48:55) |
Hie
Iam from Africa - (Malawi the warm heart of Africa) in particular. And where are you located. Having difficulties to send you on e-mail Twambi's photo. Cant you give me another address. |
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Posts: 430 (07/25/05 19:43:30) |
Hi Twambi- I am in Phoenix, Arizona- the warm part of Arizona! I hate the heat! But our "monsoon" is here, so we get rain a couple of days a week for abot 10-30 minutes. I am sure you are laughing because your monsoon is much more severe! But we enjoy the little bit of rain we get. My email is jackie_newberry@hotmail.com Please send pics!
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Posts: 9 (07/26/05 22:32:29) |
Hie I was laughing of your Monsoon winds. You should come to have a taste of our monsoon as well. Ours can be severe but still we also have rains and you can go to the lake for relaxation. Now it is winter and its so chilly, we expect by August we will be going towards summer. I sent you the photo on your e-mail. That was my rose. Regards |
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Posts: 430 (07/26/05 23:13:21) |
I haven't received it yet, but seeing as you are in Africa, I am sure it will take a little longer to get here. I will send you pics of my two as well. I'm glad I gave you a small laugh about the monsoons- after all, laughter is the best medicine.
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Posts: 9 (09/15/05 00:17:31) |
Hie Jack
You are missing and the boards are so slow. Sent you some mail in your address so better check the inbox |
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Posts: 9 (09/26/05 01:29:04) |
Hie Ladies
Just to let you all know that i am now 6 weeks pregnant and iam hell sick. At least i know with the discomforts, baby is on the way. |
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Posts: 430 (09/29/05 22:48:01) |
Congratulations! I never get time on my cocmputer anymore! Try ginger tea or crystallized ginger candy to settle your stomach- it really helps me. Also, my doc told me 50 mg of vitamin B-6 a day, plus to eat a little, wait an hour and then drink something, but to avoid doing them at the same time. Good luck, and I am so happy for you!
Jackie |
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